“I take you as you are. I will honour your dreams as I honour my own. I will stand with you when you need me, and I will strengthen you in any way that I can. I will respect you, I will forgive you, I will love you: for as long as we create goodness together.”
There are essentially two parts to every wedding. The first is the celebration of a deep and profound connection between two people. There is no one way to celebrate, some couples like to read poetry, others prefer a handfasting or sand-pouring ceremony; it’s all up to you how you choose to commit your lives to one another. Many couple choose to involve friends and family during this part of the wedding.
I can share some ideas with you about the wonderful traditions that have been practiced throughout history, all over the world, or help you craft your own unique ceremony that has meaning to you. This part of the ceremony belongs to you and can reflect your interests, your values, your love.
The second part of your wedding is the very brief legal process that you need to follow in order for your marriage to be recognized under law. This is a very specific process and can only be facilitated by a registered marriage officer.
I will prepare you for this process before the wedding and guide you through it on the day. After the ceremony, we will need to complete the marriage register with two witnesses of your choosing. I will register your union with the Department of Home Affairs.
Marriage is intended to be a lifetime commitment between two people who come together to building a life that is mutually uplifting. As a couple, you may face challenges on this journey. Having the tools to manage those challenges will empower you to engage with one another constructively, to support one another, and eventually to triumph together against anything that life may throw at you.
I have developed a six session pre-marital coaching programme designed to help you tackle the Big Issues positively and proactively. I highly recommend that all couples complete pre-marital coaching.
- Conflict resolution
- Changing priorities